Your Survival Guide

I have to admit, I am not comfortable writing about my own life. But I read this quote on Facebook:

One day you’ll tell your story of how you’ve overcome whatever you’re going through now. And your story will become part of someone’s survival guide. – Unknown

If this is true, then I don’t have the right to NOT tell my story. Because overcoming is the hallmark of my existence. 

This isn’t a matter of pride or conceit. Before I go on to give you a sampling of things I have been through, I want to make it clear that I am very close to my mother now. Trust me, you’ll understand why I clarified this when you keep reading. And it’s my hope that knowing I have a close relationship with her will encourage you, if you have someone you love that has hurt you, change is possible, and so is healing. 

Some of the stories you’ll be seeing from me could be triggering to some people, so I want to be upfront about what those may be. And also to promise that I will always give you a head’s up for those topics so you aren’t blindsided. 

My childhood was filled with abuse, of every imaginable kind. I have been sexually assaulted (unfortunately most women have a story like that), harassed, spent 18 years in an abusive marriage that I finally escaped. The worst of it was losing my first daughter. 

But then, I’ve also lost 200 pounds, gotten remarried, moved across the country, begun a new life, built a business from almost nothing, and have an amazing daughter who is thriving. 

Getting into the highly personal stuff, it’s going to take me awhile. So I’m going to start with one that’s outside of my comfort zone, but not totally impossible for me at this stage: how getting fired led me to create the business I never expected.